I'm still reeling from yesterday's rejection. You'd think I'd be used to it by now for goodness' sake. But I made the mistake of letting my guard down...and believing the stuff he told me. He would have been perfect. He was in my age range. Former military. Works at the Pentagon. Cute. Available. A man of faith. All the stuff that I'm looking for...and I feel "snookered."
Dating is interesting. I feel so dumb about it and totally inept. I tend to accept people for their face value. I try to see the best in them...and overlook their flaws. Perhaps I am gullible. Perhaps I'm too trusting. It seems that I run two risks here: if I'm cautious...it will be interpreted as being cold and aloof and they will think I'm not interested. If I'm too relaxed, I give in and then appear easy.
There has got to be a middle ground.
But as time goes on, I feel as though I'm vulnerable to situations such as this one. I want a relationship so bad, I may fall for the first thing that comes along....
To add additional frustration to my plight, I received three separate responses this week to my posting on Match.com. What frustrated me was the fact that these were all women who liked my ad....and my selection of pictures. They hadn't noticed that I'm gay. If only I were straight, apparently I'd have not problem finding a compatible partner. SIGH
But I'm gay as a goose! I don't want to fall into the trap of immediately falling for the first man that shows interest. This latest experience with the man I did on Thursday has alerted me to my overall state of vulnerability.
Perhaps the one option is the most obvious undesirable one: just be single. I'm there already. I just need to suck it up.
And so it goes...
1 comment:
The guy's rejection was based on a mental block he couldn't handle. That has nothing to do with you, it's his issue.
When you contemplate a future with someone, it should be a requirement that they like you for who you are. If you're too X, Y or Z for them, it's better to know ASAP so you don't get emotionally invested in a situation that's ultimately doomed.
Every rejection is a kindness. It saves you from wasted time and future heartache. If the guy isn't willing or able to break out of his preconceived ideas after spending that much time with you, he's not an open-minded, strong or capable man. Unless you prefer closed-minded, weak and inept men, this guy did you a favor.
NEXT!
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