Friday Night I hosted 10 gay men in my rec room.
Now, before your mind goes rolling into the gutter, let me explain. I'm a member of a gay married men's support group. I've begun hosting that group in my home once per month to show gay themed motion pictures. These are not pornography, but films that deal with the theme of homosexuality in some manner. The guys have never seen a lot of these films. So, since I have the new 60 inch set, I decided to do this.
We had a blast. We watched THE CELLULOID CLOSET -- the HBO docmentary on gays in the movies.
It was great just getting to be with a group of men like me....so affirming.
Saturday afternoon was the big farewell open house for #1. We had close to 20 people here -- all people she wanted to come and join us. Although her mother was "busy" and couldn't make it, the rest of her family showed up. We also had all kinds of other friends here.
Lovey's family was so typical. Mom O'Lovey came in and she wasn't in my house 5 minutes before she was looking around and criticizing a picture we (#1) had hung in the den. The matte needs to have some green in it. I said, "Well, you should talk to #1 ;about that. She's the one who had the framing done."
So I turned and greeted more of my guests.
Lovey's brothers in law went outside and inspected my deck.....and as I took some more of my friends out to the deck, I noted that they went down into the stair well that led to the basement. For the life of me, I couldn't figure out why they were there...so as I had my friends on the deck, I yelled, "Having a good time Boys?" They appeared looking very sheeplishly.
I then walked in to find Mom O'Lovey and one of Lovey's sisters inspecting my china closet, while Lovey's Baby sister was inspecting the basement.
Now, keep in mind, I have nothing to hide. I just found it immensely funny that they were acting so typically....and oddly. Almost to the point of rudeness.
Another three of my friends (all women who have known the sturggles I've been facing with the end of the marriage and the fact that I'm gay) surrounded me to talk about how wonderful the house looked and how beautiful it was. I thanked them, but they continued to gush. They weren't aware of the fact that Lovey's mom was listening to every word. I finally clued them in as to the fact that Mom O'Lovey thought my colors were not right....that my pictures were to large, and the furniture was way TOO big.
My friends cornered me in the kitchen. This time they wanted to say how wondeful the pictures were.....and they kept talking about how perfect the size of them were. I couldn't figure out why they were going on so about all this, until I turned and saw Mom O'Lovey standing right behind me. She turned and walked away and soon left.
It was funny.
At the end of the open house, I went out with some of #1's friends and we bowled.
It was a nice end to a wonderful day. It's great to host again in my home.
Today has been one of those nice, quiet and restful days. It's been so relaxing to just be able to curl up on the sofa and read the paper while drinking coffee.
A wonderful weekend....and I hope only one of many to come.
2 comments:
I am sure that there will be many more wonderful week ends that you fill with your friends old and new. Being out you will now have an opportunity to be fully open to the these new possibilities.
What a great idea to get together with other guys like this. I had similar experience hanging out with gay friends when I first came out...it's a good feeling to be around other people who just "get it" about you.
Farewell party sounds like a success. Too funny about the picture comments. What a good idea to have something to do after a party like that.
Sounds like a good weekend in this new year! You seem doing a good job CREATING wonderful weekends and sharing that happiness. Keep it up! :)
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