Okay...in response to the queries I have received....here are some of the characteristics of my Mr. Right. Please note that these are not set in stone, but are just the kinds of things I look for in a life mate:
1. Someone around the age of 50 -- give or take. Typically I am not attracted to folks below 30....simply because that my kids are in the 24-26 yo age range. To me, it just seems creepy to be dating someone that age.
2. Someone my height or taller -- give or take. I'd really like someone who is 6'2" or taller...just from the standpoint I have always fantasized about looking up...and stretching to hug or kiss my special guy. Stupid I know...but it's my fantasy.
3. Someone who is attractive -- at least to me. This is one of those cases where I'll know it when I see it. They don't have to have the body of a porn star.....or sculpted like a greek god.....(although I wouldn't reject them if they looked that way.). I like athletic looks.....football player builds.....bears.....and the like. I like facial hair.....wonderful eyes.....a person who is strong.
4. Someone who can be romantic and not be afraid to hold hands....be a great kisser....and to not be afraid of expressing his feelings verbally.....or nonverbally in a physical way. Yes, we're talking about sex here. I am all for cuddling and snuggling. Just touching and coming up behind me and hugging....AWESOME.
5. Someone who can cry when touched by a movie....or a love note.....or a card....
6. Someone who is not afraid of monogamy in the traditional sense and understands commitment. So many gay men have different interpretations of the word monogamy. I want someone who defines it the same way I do: "You don't take off your clothes and assume a lying down position....or do certain acts on another man besides me."
7. Someone who can hold a conversation about world affairs, current events....is intelligent....has a good job....and knows how to shoulder responsibility. I am not going to be anyone's sugar daddy.
8. Someone that is open to life's possibilities and will not rule anything out.....including marriage. Having a full fledged....fulltime gay male partner will be a tremendous step for me. It will certainly be the culmination of my coming out process. This step will take some time......and I want someone there who is very open to all possibilities.....as I am.
9. Someone that likes adventure. I'd like to travel....I have a bucket list of things I'd like to do....and would encourage my partner to develop the same and we set about doing those things.
10. Someone that enjoys the beach....and downtime......romantic get aways to the mountains......trips to junk stores or to car shows.....or figuring out new things to do.
I am sure I could go on. But I will stop here. My standards are above average. I know that.
I am not asking for anything more than I am willing to give.
So look out!
1 comment:
Frank.....an excellent list of qualifications. I don't consider your list to be too demanding. Quite the contrary. I think it is very reasonable. Those are all of the things I want too. I have most of that in my relationship except I'm the tall one (6'3" to my partner's 6'0".) The one big thing I'm missing in my relationship and I've never had it is the sense of adventure. For almost all of our 46 years together, if I want to go somewhere or do something I do it by myself or with other friends. My partner prefers to stay in the house (as he is now in the basement) working on one of his projects (they never end, these projects.) In about an hour I'm meeting friends for lunch. He would never join us yet he likes my friends. I envy those couples who do things together. We don't. But other than that we have a good relationship. The sexual part went out years ago (30 plus) but we love one another which is much more important than sex/lust. The sex/lust only lasts about a year or two, I don't care who you're with.
There is someone else "out there" who is looking for the same thing you're looking for. Have you considered the personals?
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